No children wedding invitation wording examples

Want to ask guests not to bring their children but not sure how to ask in a polite way? Here are some no children wedding invitation wording examples that’ll come in handy.

Whether you want to keep costs down, you aren't sure how to entertain children at your wedding, or your venue doesn’t allow under-eighteens, not having children at a wedding is increasingly common. However, this can be a very emotional issue, so letting guests know that their children aren’t invited can be awkward.

Of course, there is always the option to only address the invitation to the parents, and not name the children, but you run the risk that they will assume their little ones are also invited.

So to avoid any confusion, and to spare everyone’s feelings, we thought we’d share a few wording examples to make things easier.

Your venue doesn’t allow children

We are very sorry, but due to restrictions at our venue, we cannot accommodate children.

Due to safety reasons/limited space, we are unable to extend this invitation to children.


You are keeping costs down

As much as we would like to invite all the children of our friends, it is only possible to accommodate the children of close family.

We regret that due to cost restrictions, we can only accommodate close family children.

You are allowing close family children

Unfortunately, as much as we’d love to invite all of our friends’ children, we can only accommodate a few close family children. We hope that you will understand this decision and we very much hope you will still be able to join us on our special day.

In order to keep numbers to a minimum, we can only invite a small number of children. We also thought you might like a day off!


Simple wording

We are sorry we are unable to accommodate children.

Regrettably, children are unable to attend.

With respect, we would like our special day to be an adult only occasion


Formal wording

In order to allow all guests, including parents, an evening of relaxation we have chosen for our wedding day to be an adult-only occasion. We hope this advance notice means you are still able to share our big day and will enjoy having the evening off!

We would love to give all our guests the opportunity to let their hair down and have a good time without having to worry about little eyes and ears so we politely request no children.

Fun wording

Although we do love all of your little cherubs we would request that our wedding remain adults only. So book a sitter and dust off those dancing shoes!

Children allowed for ceremony but not reception

Children are welcome at the ceremony, however the reception is an adults-only affair.


Children allowed for reception but not ceremony

Children outside the bridal party are unfortunately not invited for the ceremony, but are welcome for the reception.

We would like our special day to be an adult only occasion, however we would like to open the invite up to your children at the evening reception.

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24/11/2017 at 10:49

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24/11/2017 at 08:57

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23/11/2017 at 20:29

I agree it is poor wording as it implies it is for the parents benefit whereas actually it’s because the bride and groom want an adult only event. Which is absolutely fine - I far prefer attending adult only weddings personally - but I think it’s best to just be honest about it.

But I disagree you’re ‘asking‘ people to bring a gift and pay for a babysitter. You’re inviting them to join you if they want to, attendance is not compulsory if its too inconvenient. You make it sound a bit like the guests are doing the couple a favour by attending!


23/11/2017 at 20:17

It’s not wording I would choose (and wouldnt be my reasoning for a child free wedding), but I suspect parents that would truly get offended at the phrasing would probably be the same who would get offended at children not being invited regardless of how it was worded. It can be difficult to find the right phrasing for a relatively small area of text on an invite, I think most people who choose this wording just want a casual/lighthearted phrase which they might think sounds less “harsh” than simply “this is an adults only event”, not to cause any offense. 


23/11/2017 at 20:05

Do not use the “we thought you might like a night off” line. It is unbelievably patronising. You are asking your friends to come to your wedding, presumably bring a present AND pay for a babysitter. You are welcome to a child free wedding but don’t try to dress it up as something it is not.

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